In this episode, Paul and Andrew welcome their very first guest — parenting educator, counselor, and author Jon Fogel (aka @wholeparent). Jon unpacks the difference between punishment and consequences, challenges traditional ideas of discipline, and offers a completely reframed vision of what it means to raise emotionally healthy, curious, and confident kids. This episode explores why parenting shouldn’t be about control, how we often sabotage our long-term goals in the name of short-term obedience, and what it looks like to lead with intention, curiosity, and calm. Whether you're a new dad, a seasoned parent, or just trying to break old cycles, this conversation is full of “oh dang” moments.
🔑 What We Talk About:
👴 Parenting for 40, not just for 18
⚖️ Punishment vs. consequences — and why they're not the same
🧠 Why the best parenting moments happen after the meltdown
🎯 How to raise kids who love learning and trust their own reasoning
📚 What we get wrong about grades, homework, and school
🤐 Why discipline in the moment usually fails
💬 How to model curiosity and emotional regulation as a parent
📚 Resources & Mentions:
Jon’s Book: Punishment-Free Parenting
Jon’s Site: wholeparentacademy.com
Viktor Frankl – Man’s Search for Meaning
Topics touched: gentle parenting, emotional development, AI and learning, curiosity in education
💥 This Week’s Challenge:
Try not reacting in the moment.
Instead of disciplining during a meltdown, wait until everyone’s calm — then connect, ask questions, and parent from a place of intention.
🎧 Listen & Subscribe:
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